Dear Lipstick & Dipstick: I have been married for six years. Before we married, my husband was okay with the fact that I was bisexual. A year ago, I met a woman whom I have fallen in love with. When this attraction hit, I shared it with my husband. He was disgusted, saying that she was so butch that it is like being with another man. This woman and I have been intimate for nine months, but my husband doesn't know. My sex life with him has diminished and when we do have sex, I think about her the entire and cry during and after because I feeling like I'm cheating on her. Now, he has asked me to cut off all contact with her. My husband is wonderful and I don't want to hurt him, but my relationship with this woman is getting serious. I love my husband but, I am in love with her. I need assurance that I won't destroy my husband if I leave my current life for the person that completes
Lipstick: If I had a dollar for every married woman that’s been swooned by a butch, I could retire in
Dipstick: No Lipstick, they’ll never learn. Bi-girl, your husband was okay with you being bi because he thought there was a chance he’d land in bed with two women. He never considered you’d leave and find bliss on your own. If you’re in love with another, it is unfair to stay with your husband. You say he’s a nice guy, but any man who continues having sex with someone who cries during and after is pathetic. And so are you for putting yourself through all this. Stop worrying about hurting your husband; you already have. It’s time to face the consequences and leave him for the lez. Sister butch, are you reading too? Warning: This woman has already proven one thing, she’s a cheater. Lipstick and I won’t be surprised if the next letter is from you, needing advice about the bi-double-dipper you’ve fallen for.